One day in December 2009, a young Indianapolis woman went to see her boyfriend. She texted her mother from her boyfriend’s cell phone and told her that her boyfriend broke her phone, took her keys and refused to let her leave. She texted her mother again to tell her that she and her boyfriend had decided to break up. It was the last time the mother heard her daughter’s voice.

Concerned, the mother asked her son to go check on his sister. When he got to his sister’s boyfriend’s apartment, he found them both dead of gunshot wounds to the head. The boyfriend’s wound was self-inflicted. News reports stated that it was a murder-suicide.

The mother is dealing with her grief by reaching out to other parents to be more proactive in knowing what’s going on their teenagers’ dating relationships. Her daughter’s friends had previously told her that her daughter’s boyfriend mentally and verbally abused her, but her daughter never told her, and there were no signs that anything was wrong. Her daughter was spunky and very outgoing, according to her mother.

Parents need to think back and remember what it was like when they were teenagers. Your parents were the last people you would discuss your dating problems with, and today’s teens are no different. Social media like Facebook and Twitter make it possible for your teenager to talk to anyone all over the world about their problems–everyone except their parents. Domestic violence victims typically suffer in silence, either out of shame, denial that there is a problem, or not wanting to worry their loved ones. Family and friends often discover that a loved one is being abused when it escalates to dangerous levels and someone gets serious hurt, or killed. When a person in a violent relationship decides to end the relationship, that’s when the victim is in the greatest danger, as was the case in this tragic scenario.

Colorado punishes domestic violence offenders very harshly, so if you stand accused, retaining a Colorado criminal defense attorney is critical. Your attorney will explain the state’s domestic violence laws and how they can affect your future if you are convicted.